The grandness of little things

Everyday my purpose is to take a chance. They are not always ambitious chances that require great courage. Some are as simple as trying a new food or taking a different route to here or there. One thing I do try to do is meet a new person everyday. I try to have a genuine conversation with someone different on most days.

Once I met a guy coming home from work. It was a nice day and I decided to take a scenic walk home. I cut through a park some distance away from my apartment, and there the dude was smoking a cigarette. I said, “hey man can I have one of those?” He obliged, and gave me a light. After I said thanks, I gave him a compliment on his jacket. It was a pretty sweet looking jacket. He thanked me, and told me his ex-wife gave it to him. Coincidentally (or not) he said, he had just signed his divorce papers, too. I said, “Fuck man that sucks. I’m sorry.” He sort of shrugged it off in an “all good” manner. I thanked him for the cig, and said, “Hey man, let me repay you and buy you a drink. You look like you could use it anyway.”

At the bar we talked, of course, about his ex-wife. About how everything went down hill, and about how he wishes her the best and so on. I was a bit taken back that he had no bitterness towards her. I liked him for that. We talked about how he was happy they never had kids. How it would have sucked for the kids and all. We talked about some of his plans. We talked about work, and had drinks for a while. At the end of the evening we exchanged phone numbers, and plan to catch up for drinks again.

That was twelve years ago. Twelve years later we are still great friends. I introduced him to his wife of now 10 years. I was his best man at his wedding. Today is their 10th year anniversary. Happy anniversary brother. It has been a pleasure knowing you. Thank you for the cigarette.

28 thoughts on “The grandness of little things

  1. and you confirm that humanity and genuineness still exists. I think this post really hits home for me because we are so caught up in the virtual world to meet new people. I volunteer to meet new people but what you do and what you set yourself as a goal to do is something I could really consider taking on board. I did wonder if you actually did smoke or used the cigarette as a conversation starter- I did have these images of you coughing and spluttering because you did not in fact smoke. But there we go- it goes back to being genuine. I tend to compliment people. Most of the time when I meet some one or I pass some one in the street I see something they are wearing or is a part f them and I compliment them. I don’t compliment just for the sake of it but I think it is important to take the time too let people know they are awesoem and that someone has noticed them. 🙂

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    1. Thanks love. Yes I believe kindness goes a long way. It’s so easy to say good morning or good evening or what’s up. Or nice shoes whatever. But it’s crazy how much we don’t do it. It’s crazy how sometimes you tell a person good morning and they give you a fuck off look. But what do you do but keep on keeping on. Then I smoked often. Now not so much.


    1. Thanks love. It is a true story. As I’ve mentioned to another blogger. And this is with me, and I’m pretty sure it’s the same with others. But most of our friends wee met over small instances. Don’t you think

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  2. Great story.
    I think it’s a universal truth, you just never know when you meet people, who might linger longer or even for a lifetime. For me, life is all about connections, and good people are some of the best connections we make.
    I love this post.

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  3. Wow, loved this. It actually gave me goosebumps, the fact that you stopped randomly to speak to a stranger. Who was to become your best man. Now if that’s not a testament to taking a risk in reaching out to others I don’t know what is. Thanks for sharing Ridge.

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      1. Hey Ridge, it’s SO good to hear from you. I’ll be honest, I’ve been better. In fact I’m at my lowest. I hope you’re well. And I’m glad you’re back.


      2. I am good love. Just getting my bearings back about me. I am sorry you are down, I don’t like to hear that at all. I am here if you need a venting or whatever kind of ear you need.

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